Why Can’t I?

This lack of motivation and inspiration is starting to seep into all parts of my life, not just work and being healthy. I’ve been having trouble drawing and blogging the past week. These are usually my outlets. I am already feeling quite low, so not being about to do what I normally enjoy is just going to make it worse. I’m trying to make myself do the things I supposedly enjoy anyway in hopes of it helping.2014-05-30 12.51.47

Have you ever tried Art Journaling? I think it’s a beautiful form or expression. It combines mixed media art and writing your thoughts down. I find it quite intimidating as most of the pieces I have seen are quite beautiful. So I decided to start small and I bought a book, “Art, Doodle, Love” by Dawn DeVries Sokol. It provides pre-made backgrounds and writing prompts to help you get started with art journaling. I have really been enjoying it. Art journaling doesn’t seem quite so scary now.

I’m relying on this book to give me some inspiration for a post. One of the pages from the book is called “Why Can’t I?” It asks you what holds you back from fulfilling your dreams. You’re supposed to answer the question with doodles and photos, washi tape, whatever you feel like. I thought this was good to think about.

In order to make changes in life, you have to disrupt your routine. It’s different for all of us, but a routine is normally good for me, it keeps me functional as opposed to freaking out or being unable to get out of bed. Changing a routine and remaining functional requires a lot of effort. It’s not that I don’t want to put in the effort, it’s just that I feel like I already have enough on my plate. This can be overwhelming. Feeling overwhelmed is your body’s way of telling you to dial it down. This creates an internal conflict. You want to make improvements, but you’re completely overwhelmed.

When I thought about it, besides being overwhelmed, I realized everything that holds me back is self-imposed. Things like waiting for the right time, assuming I know what the outcome will be, negative self-talk, comfortable habits, thinking that I have to be the best, fear of failure….the underlying reason for all this is the belief that I am not good enough.

It's not who you think you are that holds you back, it's who you think you are not.

I hate those infomercials that say you can be anything you want as long as you think positive and visualize success. It’s not that simple. Sure, that’s part of it. Research has shown that success has more to do with attitude and motivation than raw talent. Everyone doubts themselves once and a while, but for people like me and many others that have depression, not only do we have to think positive which is unnatural, but we have to find the motivation (which is lacking) AND we have to overcome core beliefs that we are not good enough and don’t deserve success. I’m not saying it’s not possible, I’m just pointing out that it’s exhausting. Fighting against beliefs that make you who you are is hard work.

So ignore everyone else when they say you aren’t trying hard enough. If they haven’t been there, there’s no way they can understand how difficult it can get.  Be honest with yourself, are you genuinely trying? Yes? Good! It’s ok to collapse from mental exhaustion once and while. Just don’t forget to pick yourself back up again.

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8 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Frantic Fox
    Jun 02, 2014 @ 12:06:44

    Art journaling is a beautiful thing and I have a few people that I follow on youtube that produce beautiful pages. I think it’s a great step and you shouldn’t be scared. It’s your journal so you have total creative freedom x3 you don’t even have to share it. Good luck! I’m looking to start one too once I finish putting together my desk and move into a new room.

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  2. weebluebirdie
    Jun 02, 2014 @ 12:22:57

    I really identify with your train of thought here. I’ve been having similar ponderings…currently lurking in a half hearted draft! Perhaps I’ll be able to put down more concrete thoughts and post in the next day or two,

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    • somberscribbler
      Jun 05, 2014 @ 09:47:43

      I find sometimes it helps to jot down your thoughts even if they aren’t all that coherent. I do that in a draft and then go back to it later and I’m usually able to see something in it.

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  3. NotAPunkRocker
    Jun 02, 2014 @ 12:58:39

    I may have to look into that book, thanks for the heads up!

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  4. dramallama85
    Jun 02, 2014 @ 17:14:33

    I think you art journal looks beautiful and meaningful. Have you ever heard of the book ‘The Artists Way’? It’s not just for artists but for all creative people whether as a career or a personal thing. It helps you change your routine gently to stimulate creativity. I’ve known people who’ve found it helpful, from professional writers to everyday folk. You get to take yourself on artists ‘dates’ too, which is a nice way of doing something nice to nurture your creative self.

    I’m glad you feel you can pick yourself up again, that’s the most important thing.

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