Self-esteem Challenge: Day 27

This blog challenge was developed by betterthandarkchocolate.tumblr.com. If you missed the introduction or want to see a summary of all the questions, go here.

Do you often accept compliments? If not, why?
What is the main barrier to you having positive self esteem? How can you break free from it?

I’d say I don’t believe compliments, but I keep that to myself. I have become better at gracefully accepting them. The polite thing to do is just say thank you. Compliments make me uncomfortable, so I say thank you and try to change the subject as quickly as possible. A friend once told me rejecting a compliment is like slapping the other person in the face. By not accepting it, you are saying they are wrong, have bad taste or their opinion isn’t valid. That made sense to me, so I’m trying to be more polite these days.

The main barrier to my having positive self-esteem is me and I can’t break free from that. I mean, I am kind of stuck with myself, so all I can do it try to adapt…which I am trying, but it’s going so slowly, if at all. I think another little barrier I have is being in school. I am in an environment where I am always surrounded by experts and am constantly learning. How do you learn? By trying and making mistakes. So if each day is just full of mistakes and the only people I have to compare myself to are the experts, well, you see where I am going. I am hoping that by finishing school I can move on to somewhere where I am the expert in my field and I am working with people who have different, but related expertise. I’m hoping I wont always be the student.

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4 Comments (+add yours?)

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  2. Green Embers
    Aug 13, 2014 @ 11:49:56

    If you don’t mind but could I say something? I say this because I have this problem too. Do not compare yourself with others. It is a hard thing, but I think that is what will help. Because life is always a learning experience, we are always making mistakes, no matter what our situation. No need to compare ourselves to others. That’s just my opinion though.

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    • somberscribbler
      Aug 13, 2014 @ 11:58:46

      I completely agree with you. It’s so hard not too though. Sometimes I don’t realize until after I’ve already made myself miserable that I’m comparing again. Any suggestions?

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      • Green Embers
        Aug 13, 2014 @ 12:02:51

        Hmm, let me see if I can find a resource for us. Because I find myself doing it more than I would care to admit. It might take me a bit of time.

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