Current Plan of Action and a Bit of Ewok

It is a really cold day! I’m in bed with a hot tea right now. Why am I in bed in the middle of the afternoon? Well, for one, it is THAT cold!! Second, it’s because I wanted to hang out with my cat, Ewok. Within the last few days, Ewok has discovered how comfortable it is to nap on soft cozy surfaces. Her spot of choice has been at the end of the bed burrowed into blankets. No matter how many times I bring her in the other room to spend some time with me…she ends up back in her burrow. So I have given up and decided to do things her way. So here we are in bed in the middle of the afternoon.

This may not sound strange to a lot of you, but it is definitely strange behaviour for Ewok. She normally doesn’t like soft spots, she likes to lie on hard surfaces. Even as a kitten, she would usually fall asleep on the floor or the coffee table, never the couch. We later found out this was because she was peeing on the couch. Poor confused kitten. Don’t worry, we were able to clean it! Eventually, we moved and got different furniture, but she still preferred hard surfaces. Her napping spots were usually the coffee table, a stiff carpet or on top of the printer. When she got older, she started sleeping by my head in bed, but only if I moved the pillow and blanket to make room for her. So finding her the last few days lying on the bed, sinking into the mattress surrounded by blankets has been a weird sight. I hope everything is ok with her. I think she’s fine, she’s eating and drinking and happily snorting away over there.

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The reason I want to be around Ewok is because she is a great comfort to me. I’m not sure how to describe how I am feeling right now and listening to her snorting or purring or seeing her cute little smooshy face makes me feel better. I am definitely feeling better than I was in the fall. I’m not overwhelmed and not having the suicidal ideation, but I’m not great either. My sleep is so-so and I feel sort of paralyzed. I have to force myself to do everything, otherwise, I just get lost in my head. Thinking about work. During the holidays I was preoccupied with the dread of going back to grad school full time. Now that I know I’m going to start back part time, I’m not feeling panicky and having nightmares about it. I’m still dreading it though.

The plan is to go back two days a week. I’m going to make a detailed schedule for the next two months and have it approved by psych. When the two months are up, we’ll evaluate and see if I should continue as is or take on more. I think that is fair. Hubby does too. He thinks I always jump into things and take on too much. Maybe he is right.

I hope I can finish my Ph.D. I’m not sure if it’s the depression talking or not, but I think I hate it. I like parts of it. My supervisor is great, I’m learning a lot. I like reading, brainstorming, gathering information, sorting it, teaching it and writing about what I learn. I don’t mind managing students and volunteers either. It’s the constant trouble-shooting, working around barriers, asking for money, trying to find people who qualify to participate and then begging them to participate. When working with human subjects, research depends a lot on the cooperation of other people. It’s not that others don’t want to cooperate, they just don’t want to take on extra work (no matter how minute) or disrupt their routines. I don’t just mean potential participants, I mean doctors, receptionists, technicians, volunteers and other hospital staff. I am always friendly and polite with these people. I even bring them treats, but they are never happy to see me. I am a symbol extra work, change or disruption to their routine. It’s not a pleasant work environment for me. Research is also a lot of rejection and a lot of work for very little success or progress.

Now that I have gotten all these studies through ethics, all I am doing are the things I hate. Thinking of going in fills me with dread. I really hope I can get through it. As a more senior researcher (someone with a Ph.D.), I wont have to do this part anymore. I can send students (like me now), research associates and volunteers off to do it for me. I just don’t think I’ll ever get there. If there were an end in sight, I could probably force myself through, but there is no end. I have lost faith in my project and it feels like I will be a student forever.

7 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Green Embers
    Jan 08, 2015 @ 15:49:42

    Stick with it. Just think how cool it will be to say, Doctor in front of your name. 🙂

    Glad to hear Ewok is helping! Animals are great for helping us. 🙂


  2. suesconsideredtrifles
    Jan 08, 2015 @ 16:04:11

    It may sound trite, but we live life one day at a time. I’m not saying how many I have survived! I hope the plan goes well. Sue


  3. NotAPunkRocker
    Jan 08, 2015 @ 16:06:47

    You’ve come this far, it will be worth it, I promise. 🙂

    Ewok is too cute 😀


  4. Hayley
    Jan 08, 2015 @ 18:58:03

    You’ve came this far hun, you can do it =)

    I love Ewok! I wish I had a pet of my own but the parents say no. Take care =) x


  5. Christy Barongan
    Jan 08, 2015 @ 19:11:46

    You can get there. It is crazy the stuff you have to do as a grad student. I don’t know how I survived it!


  6. weebluebirdie
    Jan 09, 2015 @ 09:07:13

    Could Ewok be pregnant? Making a nest for kittens??? I think it’s a good idea to ease back into work. It sounds like the research part is a massive slog which just has to be done. I can understand how it might feel like you have a mountain to climb. Just do a bit at a time, take plenty of breathers – that’s how I climb mountains 🙂


    • somberscribbler
      Jan 09, 2015 @ 17:07:51

      I would love to have little mini Ewoks around! That’s not the case though. We had her fixed and she is an indoor kitty, so no interaction with other cats. I’m pretty sure, she thinks she’s human, haha.


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