If We Were Having Coffee….

If we were having coffee, I’d say let’s go to the coffee shop down the street. The street I live on ends at a little village. It’s a really cute place in the summer because you can see the details of all the old stone buildings and the water lies just behind them. In the winter, I start to miss it. We can drop into Bilboquet. It’s primarily an ice cream shop, but during the winter they get most of their business from coffee and treats. I usually opt for a mini cupcake…or two. They have such fun flavours.


If we were having coffee, I’d ask you how your week was. My week was relatively stressful and I am exhausted, but it was a good week overall. The stress was brought on by my boss’ great time management skills. She gave me some instructions, sent me a list of references and asked me to make a presentation. Normally, I enjoy this sort of thing, but I got all out of sorts for a couple reasons this time.

  1. I hadn’t read most of the journal articles on the list yet which meant a lot of reading
  2. The journal articles were old and I couldn’t access a lot of them
  3. Her instructions and the content of the articles were conflicting
  4. The presentation was to be long, an hour at least.
  5. She gave me less than two days notice so I had to drop all the things I was supposed to be doing in order to get this done.

Being the head honcho, I think she sometimes forgets how long it takes to put things like this together. Plus, I am a perfectionist so I make a lot of trouble for myself. That part isn’t her fault. I finished making the presentation with enough time left over to go figure out how to plug my laptop into the big screen TV in the conference room. Anyway, the presentation was a hit, so much so that I’m going to be presenting it at a conference in the fall for continuing education (CE) credits. This is awesome. When your talk qualifies for CE credits you get your flight, conference registration and two nights in the hotel paid for. While we are on the conference topic, I’d also add that I completely lucked out and was awarded an ARVO travel fellowship! ARVO is the Association for Research in Vision and Ophthalmology. They have a huge conference every year that I go to. I always apply for the travel award, but never get it. This is good. Really good.

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you that I spent one night this week on FaceTime with one of my dearest friends. Even though we live about 6 hours apart, she has been one of my best friends since the 6th grade. It was nice to catch up with her and her daughter. I helped her set up a blog on WordPress. She has decided to try blogging as a way to cope with all that’s going on in her life. She is one of the few people from my real life that knows about my blog. Her blog is Sparkles and Darkness. I’m sure she would love it if you stopped by to say hello.

If we were having coffee, I’d tell you that #1000Speak took place yesterday and it gave me the warm fuzzies, lol. I know people value compassion and wish there wasn’t so much hate and violence going on in the world. Despite this, I still see so little empathy, nevermind altruism. I was comforted to see all these bloggers, people like me, who are conscious of the lack of compassion and try to practice it as often as possible. It has restored some of my faith in humanity. I learned a lot doing some background research on my post, It All Starts With You. I focused on human compassion in society, but other posts talked about self-compassion, which I think I needed a reminder on. How can you continue to be compassionate towards others when you are being so hard on yourself? You can only give so much before you have nothing left. Being kind to yourself prevents that reservoir of compassion from getting too low.

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If we were having coffee, we would probably have finished our coffee and goodies a while ago. I’d thank you for the company, bid you happy weekend and we’d be on our merry way until next time. 🙂

(This conversational coffee post is part of a weekend link-up hosted by Part-Time Monster. Join in the fun!

19 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. C J Alan
    Feb 21, 2015 @ 09:57:10

    Congrats on the successful presentation. I can admit (being a boss myself) it is easy to get wrapped up in everything going on and forget just how long somethings take to prepare/complete tasks.


    • somberscribbler
      Feb 21, 2015 @ 15:18:35

      Thanks! I think it’s pretty easy to forget how long a task can take when you aren’t doing it often anymore. Even though it drives me up the wall, I don’t hold it against her, haha.


  2. Sarah
    Feb 21, 2015 @ 09:59:53

    Congratulations on getting that presentation done and done well! It sounds like a huge amount of work for 2 days, but you have to do a good job for it to be accepted for continuing ed credits! I’m jealous of you having a little village at the end of your street. That sounds lovely. Have a great week!


  3. suesconsideredtrifles
    Feb 21, 2015 @ 12:03:50

    Well done with the presentation.


  4. Diana
    Feb 21, 2015 @ 12:30:46

    Awesome about the presentation, especially one that you had trouble pulling together at the last minute!

    I hated presentations the most of all the things I had to do in grad school! Such much time and so nerve-wracking.


    • somberscribbler
      Feb 21, 2015 @ 15:24:09

      I agree! I don’t mind them so much though. I enjoy pulling information together. I find troubleshooting protocols more depressing….maybe you didn’t have to do that in your field though.


      • Diana
        Feb 21, 2015 @ 17:46:38

        Luckily we don’t have to worry about that too much! I’m just such a shy person that I always hate getting up in front of a group of people, especially colleagues, to give a presentation.

      • somberscribbler
        Feb 21, 2015 @ 17:48:24

        I’m shy too…usually I’m a nervous wreck before hand, but if all goes well and I’ve entertained my audience, or taught them something new, then I feel like a total rock star, so it makes it worth it in the end. 🙂

  5. Corina
    Feb 21, 2015 @ 17:24:04

    I’m stopping by your friend’s blog to welcome her to blogging. Thank you for the link.


  6. Scott Lawlor
    Feb 22, 2015 @ 09:58:02

    just followed your friend’s blog. And that’s a great title.


  7. 20/20 Hines Sight
    Feb 22, 2015 @ 17:24:16

    Congrats on the successful presentation. I missed the #1000Speak event. Hopefully I’ll have an opportunity to stop by and read some of the posts. Isn’t Face Time awesome?


  8. Mental Mama
    Feb 22, 2015 @ 20:38:30

    Congratulations on the presentation, that’s so exciting! I’m waiting to hear if I’ve been accepted to present at a conference, too, but mine is only an hour from here.


  9. Carrie Lynn
    Feb 25, 2015 @ 06:39:11

    Congratulations with your presentation! And woohoo for time you spent with your friend and I think #1000speaks is great. Thanks for the link, I’ll read into it.


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